Phillip Wayne Taylor passed away November 2, 2019 at the age of 72. So began Phil’s obituary. On October 29th, Phil decided that he had had enough of potentially successful treatment at the expense of his life (you know, the ol’ story – the doctor tells the patient’s family, “the treatment was a success, but I’m afraid the patient died”) and he chose to enter hospice. He had two days of comfort, and positive interaction with friends and family, before slipping into unconsciousness, and passing away on the morning of November 2nd. I, along with our children, and his best friend were with him.

He had been ill for more than half of our 42 years of marriage. Death had hunted him and he had eluded it, time and time again. He, and we, thought that he was invincible. Of course, he wasn’t, and neither are any of us.

Family and friends gathered to say goodbye. The love of my friends and family sustains me. The love we had for Phil (faults and all), sustains his memory. And so, life is good, but death isn’t all bad. When we’ve been suffering, it provides relief. When we’re tired, it provides rest. When we’re apart, it brings us together. It provides an opportunity to remember good times and the best of people who’ve passed. It casts a shadow that softens difficult memories, while encouraging forgiveness. It reminds us to tell the people we love, that we love them, while they can hear us. The gift of death, is the same as the gift of life: love.

“In my life, I’ve loved them all.”

7 thoughts on “Farewell”

  1. Jennie, Sincere Condolences to you on loss of your hubby and to your kids on loss of father. Awww, it saddens me when people die. Although, I do like your attitude about death. It is the loss of physical presence of loved one that is difficult for me. Take care of yourself during your journey of grief. Be patient, there is no time frame in grieving. It is different for every individual. Treasure the memories. Hugs (())


  2. You’re very eloquent. “… death isn’t all that bad.” So well said. You took a very private moment for you and your family and wove into comfort for others. Don’t care takers always do that? We meet others’ needs. Remember to take care of yourself. It’s difficult after a loss, especially as the milestones approach. I hope you are able to have a nice anniversary day; I know it’s approaching.


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